Quick Summary
- 不良研究所 Health experts say a party this year could be deadly for those you hold most dear
- Still, older people in particular may crave the contact, so think about connecting by phone or computer 鈥 or maybe even a letter or card
- If you鈥檙e going to have a gathering anyway, our experts have tips on how to stay safer
Slimmed down or canceled celebrations this holiday season may be particularly hard on older people, but the alternative could be worse. A family gathering could risk their lives, two 不良研究所 Health experts said on 不良研究所 LIVE, Nov. 19.
鈥淚t may seem dramatic for us to sit here and say the greatest gift you can give is life and not kill your family member or loved one, but that is the reality,鈥 said Natascha Tuznik, assistant clinical professor of infectious diseases. 鈥淧eople are saying, 鈥業鈥檓 tired and I want to get together,鈥 but that is a risk you have to consider.鈥
COVID-19 is raging across California and the United States, with infection rates exploding to record levels 鈥 right as the holidays are coming and people want to gather with friends and families. But a holiday party or meal could be deadly for the people you care about, especially if they are older, Tuznik said.
鈥淭he risks are substantial right now. We鈥檙e seeing the highest case rates since the pandemic started,鈥 she said. 鈥淚 understand COVID fatigue. I have it, too. Being asked to batten down the hatches for a few more months is hard. But the best way to celebrate your family is to stay apart.鈥
Tuznik and Terri Harvath, director of the Family Caregiving Institute at the Betty Irene Moore School of Nursing, urged people to see this as a one-time sacrifice.
鈥淭his may be the only holiday season in our lives that we鈥檙e asked to practice all these precautions,鈥 Harvath said. 鈥淒on鈥檛 see this as a forever change to our traditions that so many of us love and look forward to. Instead, think about how we can modify those traditions, maybe in a virtual way.鈥
Keep connected to older adults
Changing the celebrations, but keeping some version of them, may be most important to older adults, especially those who are more isolated. It can be just as important to the family members who care for them.
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鈥淚t鈥檚 really important to be reaching out to these older adults and their caregivers,鈥 Harvath said. 鈥淭he social isolation COVID-19 has caused is a serious problem and something we need to pay attention to. We know that social isolation is related to both physical and mental health problems.鈥
For people who care for an older family member in their home, COVID-19 restrictions have often meant lost resources from community organizations and lost help from other family or friends.
鈥淯nfortunately, older adults and their caregivers have borne a disproportionate burden of COVID-19,鈥 Harvath said. 鈥淭hey have higher rates of morbidity and mortality. They鈥檝e also not been first in line for getting resources.鈥
She suggested doing whatever we can to keep a social connection to older family members and their caregivers through phone calls, virtual gatherings, packages and even going old school. 鈥淪end cards and letters,鈥 Harvath said. 鈥淩emember, your older family members have done that their whole lives.鈥
Assessing the risk of a gathering
Both Harvath and Tuznik start with this advice for any gathering with people outside your household: Don鈥檛. But with older adults, the decision gets complicated.
On one hand, there may be only a few more opportunities to gather for them. On the other, they are most vulnerable to any exposure to COVID-19, which is spreading rapidly throughout the U.S. population.
鈥淵ou do have to weigh all the risks very carefully,鈥 Harvath said. 鈥淎fter every holiday, we鈥檝e seen spikes in transmission, and all of those were during months when we could gather outdoors. The increased risk of being indoors (where there is much less airflow and it鈥檚 much harder to physically distance) is enormous.鈥
To help decide if you鈥檒l visit, the Gerontological Society of America has a that asks questions ranging from how rare is this opportunity to what is most important to you in making this decision.
How to stay safer if you do gather
鈥淧eople are calling it Zoomgiving,鈥 Tuznik said. 鈥淪ome people are even making a place setting for their computer. If you want to be totally safe, virtual is the way.鈥
The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention just that also warn about Thanksgiving and holiday gatherings.
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鈥淚f you have to do it, there are at least some things you can do to stay safer,鈥 Tuznik said. 鈥淎nd make sure everybody is on board and everybody follows through. That鈥檚 really hard to do. Will there be zero risk? No. You will still all be at risk even if you follow everything to a T.鈥
Her suggestions include:
- Keep the gathering small. Maybe six people, maximum.
- Keep it outside, weather permitting.
- If you are inside, open doors and windows for more airflow.
- Bring your own food, utensils and even salad dressing. 鈥淎s far as we know, there is no transmission related to food,鈥 Tuznik said. 鈥淭he issue is congregating around the food.鈥
- Work to keep a physical distance 鈥 and remember when people drink, they forget or lose inhibitions.
- Wear face coverings whether you鈥檙e indoors or outside, when you鈥檙e not eating or drinking. 鈥淢ake sure they鈥檙e not loose and hanging,鈥 she said.
鈥淩emember, no hugs, no kisses, just wave at everyone,鈥 Tuznik said. 鈥淚f there鈥檚 an uncle or aunt who says, 鈥業鈥檓 not going to wear a mask and I鈥檓 not going to go along,鈥 then don鈥檛 have them at your house. They鈥檒l mess it up for everyone else.鈥
Tuznik said that even if everyone at the gathering has tested negative for COVID-19, it is still no guarantee that you鈥檙e risk free because tests are a snapshot of someone鈥檚 infectiousness at the moment.
鈥淭he only way to be certain would be for everyone to quarantine for 14 days,鈥 she said.
鈥淩emember, no hugs, no kisses, just wave at everyone. 鈥淚f there鈥檚 an uncle or aunt who says, 鈥業鈥檓 not going to wear a mask and I鈥檓 not going to go along,鈥 then don鈥檛 have them at your house. They鈥檒l mess it up for everyone else.鈥 鈥 Natascha Tuznik
Harvath said she is feeling what many others feel: She misses her family. But she won鈥檛 see them this Thanksgiving.
鈥淢y mom is staying home. My daughter is not going to come. I鈥檓 not accepting any invitations,鈥 she said. 鈥淭he biggest gift we can give to family or friends is the reduction of exposure to something that can make them very sick or kill them.鈥
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